Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Two Amazing Weekends

Part 3

So much amazing counsel. So much wonderful food for the spirit. General Conference was such a boost to my soul! Here are some highlights:

Come what may and love it.

Have a strong, unshakeable testimony.

Testimonies usually don't come from an earth-shaking spiritual manifestation. They grow over time, little by little.

Live prudently.

Live within your means.

Simplify. Man only needs four things: food, clothing, shelter, and fuel (both physical and spiritual).

God never leaves us alone, never leaves us unaided in the challenges that we face. Angels are all around us--most often the people we know and love.

The Saints can accomplish any purpose of the Lord when fully united in righteousness.

God loves and helps all of His children.

Return to virtue.

This is God’s work, and God’s work will not be frustrated. But there is still much to be done.

Our trials are a test of our faith.

Our trials are suited to our own personal development.

Marriage between a man and a woman is sacred--it is ordained of God.
Any other kind of relationship is "shoplifting."

And, as the prophet of the Lord reminded us, "If you are still in the process of raising children, be aware that the tiny fingerprints that show up on almost every newly cleaned surface, the toys scattered about the house, the piles and piles of laundry to be tackled will disappear all too soon and that you will—to your surprise—miss them profoundly."

"Stresses in our lives come regardless of our circumstances. We must deal with them the best we can. But we should not let them get in the way of what is most important—and what is most important almost always involves the people around us."

"Let us relish life as we live it, find joy in the journey, and share our love with friends and family."


Amen.

My challenge: go to http://www.lds.org to the Conference Archives section to see who these quotes or paraphrases came from!


Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Tag. . .

Jaymie tagged me, and the rules are that I have to answer the following questions in one word only. I may cheat if I can't do it (or if an answer needs explanation)! Here goes. . .

1. Where is your cell phone? Counter
2. Where is your significant other? Work
3. Your hair color? Brown
4. Your mother? Penny
5. Your father? Doug
6. Your favorite thing? Life
7. Your dream last night? Recession
8. Your dream/goal? No empty chairs
9. The room you're in? "Office" (a little offshoot of the family room)
10. Your hobby? How the heck do I answer this in one word?! Reading, writing, baking, music, spending time with my kids/hubby
11. Your fear?
12. Where do you want to be in 6 years? Here
13. Where were you last night? Home
14. What you're not? Supermom
15. One of your wish-list items? Kid anti-growth potion
16. Where you grew up? Bountiful, Utah
17. The last thing you ate? Cookies (how embarrassing!)
18. What are you wearing? T-shirt and jeans
19. Your TV? On (not for long!)
20. Your pet? Kids!
21. Your computer? . . .On. . .
22. Your mood? Happy
23. Your car? Van
24. Something you're not wearing? Socks
25. Favorite store? Target (or Deseret Book!)
26. Your summer? Busy/fun
27. Love someone? Justin!
28. Your favorite color? All
29. When is the last time you laughed? Now
30. Last time you cried? Saturday (when my grandma moved to Springville)

Okay, there it is. Now I tag Kristin, Melissa, Holly, and Becca!

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Two Amazing Weekends
Part Two

When President Uchtdorf stepped to the microphone, you could practically hear the entire Relief Society worldwide sigh. Okay, not really. But my awesome neighbor, Lisa Buckmiller, did exclaim, "Hot dog!" (She told us this as part of her testimony in Sacrament Meeting the next day! This is the same funny neighbor who, after the last conference, told us, in Sacrament Meeting, that President Uchtdorf was the Second Counselor of Looking Good! You'd think the bishop would learn. . .)

That aside, the Spirit was already so strong in that meeting, and President Uchtdorf's talk took it to a higher level. I could feel Heavenly Father's love for me, the love of my Savior, and the love and trust of the Brethren for me and for the sisters of the Church (and all sisters, no matter what religion they are) just pouring over me and into me. I began to feel a little bit of what Christ meant when he called Emma Smith "an elect lady." And Pres. Uchtdorf told us such a cute little story about the difference between the meals his wife prepares (artistic and tasty masterpieces) and what he makes (basic and sometimes burned). He said that no matter how perfect his wife's food is, she always finds something wrong with it and apologizes. He asked the sisters if that sounds like someone they know, someone they know very well. We all chuckled, knowing full well that he was talking about us! Pres. Uchtdorf said, ". . .our splendid sisters sometimes undervalue their abilities—they focus on what is lacking or imperfect rather than what has been accomplished and who they really are." He said that the good side of this is that sisters have an innate desire to please the Lord to the best of our ability. But this trait can lead to frustration and unhappiness if we're not careful.

Pres. Uchtdorf then spoke about two ways we can taste of the happiness of our Heavenly Father in our lives. Heavenly Father's joy comes from two focuses: creation and compassion. Remember, his work and glory is to "bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man." Creation and compassion both work together to bring about this great and eternal purpose. How can we employ these two principles in our lives to bring greater, eternal joy into our lives?

Create: Pres. Uchtdorf said that the urge to create is one of the deepest desires of the human soul. Creation brings great satisfaction and fulfillment. He said that everyone can create, even those who think they have no talent for creation as most people view it (like music, crafts, art, cooking, etc.)
"If that is how you feel, think again, and remember that you are spirit daughters of the most creative Being in the universe. Isn’t it remarkable to think that your very spirits are fashioned by an endlessly creative and eternally compassionate God? Think about it—your spirit body is a masterpiece, created with a beauty, function, and capacity beyond imagination.
"But to what end were we created? We were created with the express purpose and potential of experiencing a fulness of joy.
Our birthright—and the purpose of our great voyage on this earth—is to seek and experience eternal happiness. One of the ways we find this is by creating things.
"If you are a mother, you participate with God in His work of creation—not only by providing physical bodies for your children but also by teaching and nurturing them. If you are not a mother now, the creative talents you develop will prepare you for that day, in this life or the next.
"You may think you don’t have talents, but that is a false assumption, for we all have talents and gifts, every one of us.
The bounds of creativity extend far beyond the limits of a canvas or a sheet of paper and do not require a brush, a pen, or the keys of a piano. Creation means bringing into existence something that did not exist before—colorful gardens, harmonious homes, family memories, flowing laughter.
"What you create doesn’t have to be perfect. So what if the eggs are greasy or the toast is burned? Don’t let fear of failure discourage you. Don’t let the voice of critics paralyze you—whether that voice comes from the outside or the inside.
"If you still feel incapable of creating, start small. Try to see how many smiles you can create, write a letter of appreciation, learn a new skill, identify a space and beautify it." (http://www.lds.org/library/display/0,4945,285-1-54-31,00.html)

Pres. Uchtdorf also reminded us that the more we rely on the Spirit, the more our ability to create and bless this world will be increased. "That is your opportunity in this life and your destiny in the life to come."

Compassion: "Being compassionate is another great work of our Heavenly Father and a fundamental characteristic of who we are as a people." Christ was the ultimate example, and true disciples of Christ follow his example of great compassion. As we serve others, sacrifice for others, and show kindness to others, the windows of heaven are opened to us and choice blessings can descend upon us. Pres. Uchtdorf quoted President Spencer W. Kimball: "The more we serve our fellowmen in appropriate ways, the more substance there is to our souls.” He also reminded us that President Hinckley taught that service has great healing power. If we are experiencing grief, heartache, or are lonely, serving others will heal our souls. Pres. Uchtdorf said, "As we lose ourselves in the service of others, we discover our own lives and our own happiness." The world around us constantly sends messages that are contrary to these inspired words. We live in a world full of self-help manuals, spend-now-pay-later, and people telling us the only way to heal and become a better person is to focus on yourself. But, as Christ said, "Whosoever shall lose his life for my sake shall find it." I know this is true.

Pres. Uchtdorf concluded by commending the sisters for their great ability to nourish, teach, and serve with compassion that has blessed countless lives the world over. He stated that every sister is important to our Heavenly Father and an important part of building the kingdom of God. He reminded us of Pres. Monson's words to the conference a year ago: ". . .you are . . . surrounded by opportunities for service. . . . Often small acts of service are all that is required to lift and bless another." Then Pres. Uctdorf said,
"Look around you. There at sacrament meeting is a young mother with several children—offer to sit with her and help. There in your neighborhood is a young man who seems discouraged—tell him you enjoy being in his presence, that you feel his goodness. True words of encouragement require only a loving and caring heart but may have an eternal impact on the life of those around you.
"You wonderful sisters render compassionate service to others for reasons that supersede desires for personal benefits. In this you emulate the Savior, who, though a king, did not seek position, nor was He concerned about whether others noticed Him. He did not bother to compete with others. His thoughts were always tuned to help others. He taught, healed, conversed, and listened to others. He knew that greatness had little to do with outward signs of prosperity or position. He taught and lived by this doctrine: 'He that is greatest among you shall be your servant.'
"In the end, the number of prayers we say may contribute to our happiness, but the number of prayers we answer may be of even greater importance. Let us open our eyes and see the heavy hearts, notice the loneliness and despair; let us feel the silent prayers of others around us, and let us be an instrument in the hands of the Lord to answer those prayers."


I felt so encouraged, so uplifted, so cheered on, I floated home with renewed desire to be as the Savior would have me be. I hope you have been uplifted and encouraged as I have. No matter who you are, you are a precious spirit child of our Heavenly Father with unique talents, gifts, and blessings, and He loves you and wants you to know of that love. I know this is true!

Monday, October 06, 2008

Two Amazing Weekends

The past two weekends were incredible! I really needed the boost that the General Relief Society Conference and General Conference gave me.

Part One
I was so excited to go over to the stake center for the R.S. broadcast (you can see the building from my front door--I know, I'm spoiled). They had a dinner before the broadcast, but I missed that trying to get dinner on for my family. (I know, I know, the idea was to make the hubby cook for the fam, but a well-fed husband is a happy husband!) So, anyway, I headed over to the church without any children in tow (a small miracle), and as soon as I stopped worrying about them, I was able to ascend to a new realm. I felt like I had been transported to the Celestial Kingdom, the Spirit was so strong. The R.S. Presidency messages were so powerful, so inspired. If anyone wants to know where true feminine strength and power combined lies, it is in the Relief Society and in the motherhood that is inherent in each woman. Nowhere else on earth can be found a group of women so willing and able to change the world.

Sister Julie B. Beck reminded the sisters of the beginnings of Relief Society and that, just as the Savior invited Mary and Martha to participate in His work, we have been commissioned to do the same. She said, "The purpose of Relief Society, as established by the Lord, is to organize, teach, and inspire His daughters to prepare them for the blessings of eternal life." To fulfill this purpose, we need to do three things:
1. Increase in faith and personal righteousness.
2. Strengthen families and homes.
3. Serve the Lord and His children.
The Relief Society is there to bless our lives and help us through all the challenges and new opportunities we face. We can lift and teach each other and give service to each other as the Spirit guides us. What a great comfort! And this is crucial: to do the work of the Lord, we must receive personal revelation. Sister Beck said, "Without personal revelation, we cannot succeed. If we heed personal revelation, we cannot fail." We need to remember that this comes when we are still enough to hear that Still Small Voice, and that we need to be striving to live in such a way to be worthy of it. As we hear and heed personal revelation, a power not yet fully exercised, as stated by President Spencer W. Kimball, will help us to ensure that "every meeting, every lesson, and every activity we undertake helps them increase in faith and personal righteousness, strengthen their families and their homes, and serve the Lord and His children." The real power lies within each woman. Working together, we can do the work of the Lord as never before!

A Costa Rican native, Sister Sylvia Allred spoke of the sacrifices made by the members of her ward in 1976 as they prepared to go to the temple in Mesa, Arizona, the closest temple at the time. The trip took five days each way, and crossed six borders. Most of the Saints who went sold almost everything they had in order to travel day and night in uncomfortable buses to visit the House of the Lord. Some people had no money left after paying for the trip and subsisted on crackers and margarine the whole way. Sister Allred then asked, "Why do members of the Church so willingly and happily make such great sacrifices to go to the temple?" She replied, "I have never forgotten the great outpouring of the Spirit we experienced during the three days we spent at the Mesa Temple. I was deeply touched as I watched family members embrace each other with tears streaming down their faces after being sealed for the eternities." Twenty-four years later, a temple in Costa Rica was dedicated, with many of those families present.

The Lord has always commanded his people to build temples, from the earliest days to now. We need temples so that we can make the sacred covenants that will enable us to return to the presence of the Father, and so that we can have the blessings that can be given to us now because of our sacred promises. Families can be sealed for time and for all eternity in the temple, and in no other place can this happen. We are also taught from on high every time we attend the temple. Our understanding of our sacred covenants increases every time we return. We also have the opportunity to serve those who did not have the opportunity to make sacred covenants before they died, covenants that are crucial for their exaltation.

We need to have "clean hands and a pure heart" to enter the temple, and should make sure that when we do go, our minds are free from thoughts that would detract from this sacred experience. Our clothing should reflect our reverence and respect for the temple. I thought of all the Saints who have sacrificed so much to even visit the temple once, when I can visit it anytime I make the time to drive 10 minutes away. We all need the great strength that comes from serving in the temple, and I really felt the power in Sister Allred's words as she encouraged us to be worthy and attend the temple as often as we can.

Sister Barbara Thompson reviewed the beginnings of Relief Society, attended by a group of women almost as diverse as Relief Society today: young and old, wealthy and poor, married/mothers/single, women who were formally educated and those who were not. But they were united in purpose--they loved each other and the Lord, and had a desire to serve. Sister Thompson said that by remembering Relief Society women have done in the past, we can better understand and be guided today.

In the early days of the Church, the Relief Society focused on helping the poor and needy, as well as going from house to house to fill needs or allow the women in the households to provide for someone else's needs. Sister Thompson likened this to our day: "Just as Emma described the boat stuck on the rapids and the people needing help, we can liken that to our day when we see such things as a neighbor who is ill, a child who needs instruction, a teen needing a friend, or a family who has lost their income and needs assistance to get back on their feet. We hear of calamities, storms, or personal tragedy in the lives of our sisters everywhere. We need not rush about trying to find things to do or causes to take up. Remember, most often the help needed is in our own homes, neighborhoods, and communities. A kind word of encouragement, a note of thanks, a phone call, a loving smile, a helpful deed, and a reminder that God loves us are often what is needed most. We can lift and bless others in so many ways. Relief Society is not just a class on Sunday. It isn’t just a place we go if we are not teaching in the Primary or Young Women organizations. It is the Lord’s organization for women. Participation in Relief Society is part of our glorious heritage and blessing as women in the Lord’s Church."

Just as Joseph Smith reminded that they were not just to help the poor, but to save souls, we are to do the same. As we study the gospel, the "good word of God," and listen to the Spirit, we will be given the ability to teach and contribute in a way that will edify and nourish all who are present.

Sister Thompson said, "Sisters, now more than ever, we need women to step up and be strong. We need women who declare the truth with strength, faith, and boldness. We need women to set an example of righteousness. We need women to be 'anxiously engaged in a good cause.' We need to live so that our lives bear witness that we love our Heavenly Father and the Savior Jesus Christ and that we will do what They have asked us to do. We need to rescue “all that is finest down deep inside of [us]' so that as daughters of God we can do our part to build the kingdom of God. We will have help to do this. As Joseph declared, 'If you live up to your privileges, the angels cannot be restrained from being your associates'. . .I know that, as Emma encouraged, we can do something extraordinary today. We can be a righteous army of women armed with love, compassion, kindness, service, and faith. We can be a mighty force for good in this world." We will be safe and protected, a place of refuge. What a privilege!

Wednesday, October 01, 2008

Milestones. . .

Jeremy is approaching his first birthday, and I thought he would never be interested in standing up at all. Even when we would stand him up, he would usually smile and then lift up his legs or sit himself down. I tried helping him "walk" a little bit, but he would take a few funny steps with his legs way out in front of him, and then he would lift up his legs so we would let him get down. He loves to crawl and move himself around, and he likes to go at his own pace. He tends to all of a sudden move to another milestone, and this time was no different. Suddenly, a couple of days ago, he pulled himself up to a stand while holding onto Justin's pants. It was so sudden, we almost didn't realize he'd done it. Now he loves to pull himself up as much as he can, and it has definitely expanded his exploring repertoire. I am also finding myself having to move things higher and out of his reach! He loves it when we cheer for his efforts, and he even gets brave enough sometimes to let go of the couch a little bit and move his arms up and down. It is fun to see him growing so much, but of course, each milestone we reach is a little bittersweet.

Jeremy also got his first tooth last week, and though he's been a fairly pleasant person while working on four teeth (I don't think I'd be so smiley myself), he hasn't slept very well. Now the tooth is growing almost to the point where it shows when he smiles, and I am savoring those gummy smiles, knowing they won't last much longer.